Leadership Observability: Making Your Intentions and Values Queryable
Your principles mean nothing if your team can't trace your decisions back to them
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We all have beliefs.
Whether formed in childhood, after a traumatic breakup, or in a failed business attempt, we have beliefs that lurk deep in our subconscious and play out in our actions.
They build the foundation of our values.
We might value time with certain friends over a full night’s sleep, to fulfill our deep, innate need for human connection.
We might check our phones even when we are supposed to unplug because we believe we are in control that way and value work above all else.
We might not share what we are thinking with those close to us, or even with ourselves, and value our privacy, believing that revealing this side will only result in weakness.
As leaders, we are not immune to beliefs and the values that sprout from them. But how we demonstrate our beliefs, impact, if they can be seen, queried, and predicted in action.
This itself determines the trust our team and those we collaborate with will extend to us.
Trust is the foundation of the system.
Without it, our leadership crumbles.
Most Leadership Failures Are Observability Failures
Have you ever worked for someone who could fly off the handle, going from a calm demeanor to rage in an instant?
If you experienced this, you probably have enough conscious empathy for your team and colleagues to avoid replicating this behavior. It is not fun.
This is an extreme example of leadership failure, characterized by being unpredictable in the most negative ways.
But failures as a leader exist elsewhere.
The negative can outweigh the positive for your wider audience of stakeholders.
Have you heard that most people are more motivated to write a negative review than a positive one?
Our brains gravitate toward leaning into the negative rather than absorbing the positive.
This can apply to what is presented about our work, intent, or accomplishments. The negative can stick out.
The ancient Stoic philosopher Epictetus had a concept called prohairesis - your faculty of choice, the core decision-making system that determines how you respond to circumstances.
Think of it as your leadership service’s internal logic: the values, principles, and reasoning that drive every decision you make.
But here’s the problem: your prohairesis runs entirely in a black box.
Your team can’t inspect it, can’t query it, can’t trace a decision back through it to understand why you chose what you chose. They only see the outputs: your decisions, your priorities, your reactions under pressure.
When those outputs seem inconsistent or opaque, it’s not because your values changed; it’s because you haven’t instrumented them.
Most leadership failures aren’t failures of character - they’re failures of observability, where the gap between your internal principles and your team’s ability to see them creates the exact confusion, misalignment, and trust erosion that kills organizational effectiveness.
From Stated Values to Predictable Behavior
“I believe in being able to disconnect from work,” says the boss who is sending emails at 11:01pm and attending conference calls on vacation. Sure, it could be necessary at times, but as a stated value vs. action, it is in conflict with itself.
Our values cannot just be stated. They must form in a pattern that is observable, can be queried, and, in some sense, mostly predictable.
Whether highly conscious of emotional intelligence, most of us engage in some level of relationship management. For example, I once had a senior leader who despised bullet points, so I honored that by adjusting my correspondence with him to have numbered lists. My emails were generally received well.
Having a consistent pattern of taking decisive action after seeing the ROI presented and having at least one sit-down conversation to clear any open questions is predictable behavior.
This stands in contrast to a leader who makes an impactful decision on the fly one day, and the next requires several meetings and a 10-page document to explain the details of the decision, with no explanation for the disparate treatment.
This means having respect for one another and restraint, even when John down in Accounting sounds like an absolute imbecile. You do not show this on your face; rather, push back with gentle curiosity and model this engagement with your team.
You talk about AI bringing efficiency, and you yourself partner with AI to streamline your processes and eliminate redundant steps. If you are not sure how, you are humble enough to ask your more tech-savvy team for assistance.
You explain the why, not just the what, in defining and living your values.
It is the full loop, and on display, as a grounded leader, walking in your purpose.
Trust Is Built on What Can Be Seen
Your team doesn’t need perfection. They need predictability.
When your values run like that code that is observable and traceable, something shifts. People stop second-guessing your motives. They stop hedging. They stop waiting for the other shoe to drop.
They start trusting the system, because they see with their own eyes that it works
This is the foundation of psychological safety, where innovation thrives, and collaboration flows not because you demanded it, but because you made it safe through consistent, visible values.
Epictetus understood that prohairesis, your faculty of choice, determines everything. But he also knew that philosophy meant nothing without practice. Your leadership principles are only as valuable as your team’s ability to observe them in action.
So instrument your values. Make them queryable. Build the trust that becomes your most powerful competitive advantage.
Because in the end, leadership isn’t about what you believe. It’s about what your team can see you believe, consistently, even when no one’s watching.
EMPATHY ELEVATED IN ACTION
Emotional Intelligence → Identify one value you claim to hold. This week, audit your actions against it. Where do your stated values and observable behaviors align? Where do they conflict?
Stoicism → Before making your next significant decision, explain the “why” to your team, not just the “what.” Make your internal logic visible and traceable.
Human–AI Thought → Examine one area where you’re modeling (or not modeling) the behavior you advocate. If you champion AI adoption, show your team how you’re actually using it. Transparency builds trust.
✅ What I’ve been analyzing this week (reading, watching, listening, etc.)
📖 I’m reading the Harvard Business Review Manager’s Handbook: The 17 Skills Leaders Need to Stand Out (HBR Handbooks) by Harvard Business Review.
👀I read this post by Ethics in Beta all about Cookies, and all that clicking “accept all” means
Emotional Intelligence • Stoicism • Human–AI Partnership
Practical frameworks for clearer communication, better judgment, and less friction in modern work
The best read on Substack this week. I pride myself in my leadership and write about it, this article has, not will, has made me think about how I approach my day and team. Thank you
Thank you for including my piece. I really appreciate it.
I keep thinking about your point around visibility. We talk about values constantly, but people respond to what they can discern in behavior.
Predictability builds more trust than statements ever will.